The BE / DO / HAVE List. You take a sheet of paper, divide it into three columns and
give each column a heading:
BE for column one, DO for column two and HAVE for column three.
Then you sit down and muse:
So, who do you want to BE? What kind of person would you like to BE?
Think of the qualities you would like to cultivate – peaceful, wise, loving,
Next, consider column two. What do you want to DO?
Perhaps you would like to write a book, teach counted cross stitch, go on holiday or a
Lastly, consider what you would like to HAVE.
Maybe you would like a house a mile from a specific beach or maybe your dream is BIG
still a castle. Maybe you want a Corvette sports car. Or maybe it is as simple as you want a new outfit for your friend’s wedding.
The idea is that you dream. You open your mind, remove all blocks and set your imagination free. Blocks like, ‘I’ll never have the money’ or ‘that only happens to lucky people’ or ‘I live on the wrong side of town’ or whatever else that little protesting voice in your head is coming up with.
So, you can get through to the real you.
When you do this exercise you can home in and think about what kind of person,
husband, wife, parent or friend you want to be. You can think about how you can
deliver the best work you’re capable of, you can consider the kind of person God
wants you to be. You just let your mind wander, ponder, imagine and dream.
When you do an exercise like this and allow the answers to come to you from deep
inside you rather than from what you have been taught about who you are, how to
be, how to work, what God wants, what you can and can’t have, you start excavating the truth of who you are.
There is a difference between your everyday self and your true self. So yes, finding
the REAL YOU can be confusing. Sometimes when we talk about yourselves, we refer
to our everyday self, for example when we say ‘I AM hungry’, what we really mean
is my body is sending me signals that it needs food.
When we say ‘I AM fearful’, what we mean is that there is a part of me that feels
scared. That part is your everyday self.
The REAL YOU or true essence of you is never fearful. Your REAL self has qualities
like self-reliant, evolutionary, loving, creative, knowing, accepting and peaceful.
It is useful to know how to tell difference between your true self and your
everyday self because the voices in your head that say you are ugly or that
people don’t like you keep the REAL YOU from coming out.
Okay, you got your list and found the Real YOU… So, don’t go back to listening to the
thought you have like, “My cousin Connie thinks I can’t sing so I can’t be a singer.” You can be anything you want to be and are if you just stop the labels and stinkin’ thinkin’… Not just listening to it but stop putting the stink on others with your words.
And I will never be a singer not because Connie thinks so but because I know I really can’t sing.. LOL
Here is an example: (NOTE: were is a lot of negative coming at you daily... So, limit your list to positive with maybe one negative that you want to improve on.. If your list becomes negative your not dreaming and expiring to the real you but still living in the nightmare of what others have told you.)
My challenge to my readers today is to not say one negative thing today... and gossip is normally negative so that would mean no gossiping... Can YOU DO IT>> If you are a boss, go the whole day without be negative to your employees. If you have a negative can you turn it into a positive?
for column one
Loving, kind, creative, fun, wise, knowledgeable, good wife and
for column two
Art and write more,
for column three